tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1989590509648610688.post7251594188018433371..comments2023-08-10T03:33:51.524-05:00Comments on Life's a Peach: Should We Lie To Our Spouse?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05407825751018840480noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1989590509648610688.post-7210575929425462632009-12-12T20:09:34.355-06:002009-12-12T20:09:34.355-06:00I might have taken a day or two to reveal a truth ...I might have taken a day or two to reveal a truth when there is something I don't want to think about, or news I feel would make my husband worry, but I have always told the him the truth about everything--my past before I met him, and everything that I've experienced since. A marriage without complete honesty (and disclosure) is a place I would never want to be. <br />HessengirlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1989590509648610688.post-4905578887541276362009-12-10T16:27:11.491-06:002009-12-10T16:27:11.491-06:00I agree with you. Lying could only worsen the rel...I agree with you. Lying could only worsen the relationship, not help it. It's better to be open and honest with your spouse about everything. If there are any negative reprocussions from doing so, those will probably be over quickly and not as bad than lying and the consequences later (either the truth coming out, or the downward spiral of living in lies). I feel too guilty to lie to my husband. It's easier to do it to other people but i love my hubby too much and honesty and trust is something i value greatly.Kithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15200575405782534481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1989590509648610688.post-7493208983072648502009-12-04T19:43:21.445-06:002009-12-04T19:43:21.445-06:00I'd also like to mention a good point that Sam...I'd also like to mention a good point that Sam mentioned to me in a side conversation. That you can choose how much information to reveal, keeping some private, while still being truthful. For example, if Tanner had just told me "I think you look beautiful no matter what you wear," when I asked him his opinion on my skinny jeans and flats, he wouldn't have been lying, just sharing one of many truths in the situation, but the truth he considered the most important. Good point!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05407825751018840480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1989590509648610688.post-5514751844678066912009-12-04T19:38:47.029-06:002009-12-04T19:38:47.029-06:00Kirsten, that IS a very interesting question. One ...Kirsten, that IS a very interesting question. One that my morning radio show DJs discussed recently, which gave me a nice, long hour and half to ponder the question (I have a long commute). Interestingly enough, as I was reading your comment, Dr. Drew was speaking on the TV about Tiger Woods wife, saying that if she wanted to stay with her husband, she might have to be OK with the fact that she'll never trust him again in the same way she did before, and that she'll have to choose to keep her marriage despite that persistent uneasy feeling.<br />The idea of having to live with that uneasy feeling is a horrible thought, so is the idea of a marriage wounded by an affair. How horrible that reality would be might be worth avoiding, especially if what you don't know can't hurt you. But, and maybe it's selfish, I think I would want the "right" to choose whether to forgive and how to go on, with all the truth. Your friend might be right, but I also think that it's hard for two to be one if one has transgressed so deeply and not confessed and sought forgiveness. Anyways, yuck, I don't even like thinking about it! I don't know though, I hope I'm never have to go through it, but I think God work healing when things are brought into the light.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05407825751018840480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1989590509648610688.post-43434849267805607792009-12-04T17:40:58.444-06:002009-12-04T17:40:58.444-06:00You read my mind when you wrote that.........I cou...You read my mind when you wrote that.........I could just never have captured it in writing like you can. Wow.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05470505739031196514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1989590509648610688.post-61841554399437230292009-12-03T21:49:03.548-06:002009-12-03T21:49:03.548-06:00Very interesting take on the whole lying thing--bo...Very interesting take on the whole lying thing--both the article's and yours. I don't know exactly where I fall on it...I think some of those lies they used as examples are awful. I also agree that we need to not put people in situations where they feel they have to lie. Here's a question someone brought to me a long time ago that, at the time, was an easy answer. The question was, if an affair or something comparable had taken place and was over and done with, would you want to know? At the time, I was sure that yes, I'd want to know. The person I was speaking with said that at times, knowledge like that would not do anything to mend the relationship, only kill it. I'm not sure where I fall on this now, not that anything has changed in terms of actual experience. That's a much larger lie than what you brought up, but I was reminded of that conversation. Any thoughts on that?Kirsten Oliphanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00496242688262871608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1989590509648610688.post-56649586481796483082009-12-03T14:25:36.090-06:002009-12-03T14:25:36.090-06:00Erin,
I think you honesty with Tanner is absolutel...Erin,<br />I think you honesty with Tanner is absolutely refreshing and I couldn't agree more. We've spent our lives looking for the men who love us just the way we are. Why lie about the little stuff at this point?<br />I worry about people who can't truly let their hair down and just be themselves. It must be exhausting and quite frankly I don't have that kind of energy.<br /><br />Your blog is delightful. Life is a peach indeed.<br /><br />Leslie LowAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696885741402094356noreply@blogger.com